I was thinking a lot about yesterday’s blog post and the social problems — an unpredictable robocall that interrupted the initial video. And, the technical problems that followed — posting a snippet of the video recorded and spliced after the interruption instead of the entire video. Both were frustrating; a result of a lack of focus on my part and the illusion of control.
Unfortunately, the illusion of control is something that keeps flowing in and out of our lives like tides at Malibu Beach, impacting our efforts to accomplish our goals, objectives, and outcomes. It impacts every aspect of our lives, especially when we attempt to control all those things that exist outside our Circle of Self. Once we go beyond the limited and distinct elements of our lives that we can control we’re operating in someone else’s territory. At the mercy of their wants, needs, and expectations. Subject to what they are willing and able to control.
Control, Influence, and Annoyance
We’re back looking at three distinct elements of performance yet again. The first is this notion of control. We need to recognize that each of us is solely capable of self-control: controlling our reactions and our behavior. Beyond that, it’s all about influence. How successful we are in getting others to do what we want or need them to do. The third element is annoyance: the emotion experienced by those individuals or groups who aren’t buying what you’re selling! The folks who have no interest in being influenced or controlled.
The key is where you focus your attention. Focusing on things outside your Circle of Self is counter-productive if it’s productive at all. So, focus your attention on you: what you perceive, what you think and feel, and how you react. That’s what will get you the result you’re looking for.annoyanceCircle-of-Selfcontrolfrustrationgreat performanceinfluenceself-control