It always seems like the Holidays are time for a deeper, more meaningful level of introspection and reflection.
Where have you been? Where are you now? Where do you need to be? Where do you need to be concerning everyone and everything in your world? These are all questions that need to be asked and answered.
The difference for me is this is the first Holiday Season of my second life and as such, every question is magnified: every answer even more critical. That, and the ever more important role ‘Framily,’ the friends and family I have chosen to surround myself with, play in my post-transplant world.
These are real friendships. Tangible friendships. Not friendships in the abstract.
The kind of friendship that comes from a special place. The place that exists between the Private Self, the self you hide and protect. The self you guard and defend. And, the Public Self. The self you project out into the world.
It’s through the sharing of that self that friendships — three o’clock in the morning friendships — are born.
Relationships blossom when the curtain is raised, and intimacies are shared: intimacies and secrets: weaknesses and vulnerabilities.
Magic happens when trust blossoms. Hearts open when we are able to share.
I hope you are able to lift the curtain on your Semi-Private Self this Holiday Season. Just as I hope you recognize when a friend or family member is able to raise the curtain on their Semi-Private Self in order to invite you in.
If it happens it will be just one more thing to be thankful for this Thanksgiving.
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