Lesley is in the kitchen cooking — I mean really cooking!
She is preparing some of my favorite recipes and there are pots and pans on the kitchen counter and ingredients everywhere.
While she is focused in the kitchen the safest place for me to be until I’m summoned is in my office which got me thinking about the complexity and simple elegance of what she is doing in the next room.
Some of the recipes are deceivingly simple. Some incredibly complex. All are delicious and require meticulous attention to every detail. Too much of one ingredient or too little of another is almost guaranteed to result in something less than the desired result!
In many ways, it’s a lot like life. If you want to ensure a long and happy life you really have to think about the ingredients that go into that mix in order to cook up something delicious, something worthwhile.
I’ve been talking about this a lot lately. But if you’re interested in additional suggestions for cooking up a deliciously meaningful life here are some additional sources.
In a 2014 article that appeared in the Good Men Project, Lauren Lobleysuggested you will need the following ingredients for a long and happy life: 5 cups of Focus, 17 cups of Nurturing Relationships, 2 heaping tablespoons of Health, ¾ of a cup of Integrity, 8 cups of being Present and making Eye Contact, 18,000,000 cups of Moving your Body every day, 2 pounds of Forgiving Yourself, 2 teaspoons of Laughter, 1 cup of cooking at home and bake for a year.
Brian Tracy suggested an additional 7 Ingredients of a Happy Life: Peace of Mind, Health and Energy, Loving Relationships, Financial Freedom, Worthy Goals, Self-Awareness and Personal Fulfillment. And, Brian Kim, LMFT, ‘the angry therapist,’ suggested no less than eighteen more in Psychology Today.
When you boil it all down (pardon the pun) these are all different ways of saying the same thing. Be here: in the present. Treat yourself and others well. Embrace empathy and compassion. Take time out to be grateful and appreciative. Be mindful. Work at being healthy and fit — it isn’t easy. If it was everyone would be doing it! Be the person others enjoy being with and be with those you enjoy. Maybe, sprinkle it all with a good measure of service: service to others.
If you want to add a little something that is bound to help with health and wellness, be sure to include a good measure of the finest medical professionals you can find. They are the chicken in the chicken soup: the blueberries in the blueberry pancakes!
There are other ingredients you’re going to need if you’re thinking about creating something unique: something original. But that’s going to be up to you to figure out. If you come up with something really cool let me know. You know where to find me!
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